Expectations and the future are related. Everything you long for is not in the NOW. Meaning that when you choose to be in the now, you can’t be in the future. Looks quite simple but it is not. We all dream of what we want, now AND in the future. So how do we manage to be in the now and choose for that, while we long for certain things in the future?
First of all it’s about your wants. You want something in the NOW that is related to the future. So because the want is in this moment, you are not in the future. Your want could be your desire to let it all come true in the future. But you also do realize that you are in this moment, in the now. Makes sense?
The difficulty is that we, most of the time, think so much of what our wants are that our thoughts come out in the future, which is the time not to be in now. We can most certainly loose ourselves in making a picture out of that which we call an expectation. And start writing our own scenario with all our ultimate wishes as if they already are a fulfilled reality.
THEN we get used to this expectation, it seems to be the NOW , even when we know it still has to happen, in our mind we live the idea that this is already what’s going to happen. We even might create a screenplay with dialogues in which all people involved are telling us the things we want to hear.
When I tell people that they are doing this, every one of them reacts somewhat insulted and almost always defensive. Why?
I think this might be because they do not want others to see or know they have been writing their own scenario. It’s private. It’s not done to talk about it. It’s NOT TRUE at all! They even react ashamed….the same feeling they got as a child when they were dancing in the assumed knowledge that nobody was watching them. Until dad or mom or a brother or sister came in the room and they felt caught in the action.
To stay in the now we can have all thoughts about the future, as long as we stay in the moment we live in, which is the moment we are in NOW. No drifting away to whatever is not there yet, just gentle dreaming without pushing ourselves to let it come true in the way we design it. Go with the flow, life will take you on its wings and put you down where your place is at the right time and at the right spot, in the right moment.