And they lived unhappily ever after…………
How many people do you know that are truly happy?
And how many people do you know that are truly unhappy?
How many people do you know that stick together, because it is easier, or because they prefer their financial security above real happiness?
My final question here would be:
“What is real happiness?”
In order to answer that question, it would be an idea to pose these questions not only to your MIND, but most certainly to your HEART or SOUL….
It could be possible that your mind wants different things than your soul!
Of course the majority of people get married or will choose to live together with a partner, because they love this person. And BELIEVE that they will stay together and live happily ever after.
So what happens during that journey? How can it be possible that so many couples start to lose that feeling? First of all people project very often what their wants are on the person, that they believe will MAKE THEM happy. Women project their wants on the guy they are dating. Regardless weather the guy has that skills for real or she only ASSUMES that, because she WANTS him to have these wants. Love is blind, as they say; that most certainly is true in lots of relationships.
The thing that will become far more clear the more the relation lasts, is when you act different than you really are in the beginning. People can make up a belief they want you to buy ! But that does not mean that what they show you is the real them at all!
After 3 months, some cracks will be seen in the wall of make belief, then after 6 months the partner does not bother to hide that anymore and after another 3 months he or she believes that you are completely satisfied and this is the normal way to act, having a relationship. When you no longer project your wants on the person you are dating or even got married to, or live with, you will discover that in about half a year to a year. The real person starts to show up!
How to deal with that and when possible how to avoid that?
When you do NOT wear masks and when you do NOT make up the belief that you need to show a MASKED you, that REALLY will be SO much MORE COMFORTABLE! And it will SAVE you not only lots of time, but also lots of disappointments when the two of you start doing that!,
For all of you who want to make the best impression ever and use that in a date, try to do the next:
JUST BE YOU!!!
It will definitely give you the opportunity to find the partner that you REALLY are looking for. And once you have found that partner, it will have far more chance to last in the way most fairy tales end with:
And they lived happily ever after………….