First blog of this New Year! My true wish to all of you, reading the blogs Brian and I write, is to have the most spectacular relationship(s) you ever wanted! It’s all about beliefs…what YOU believe, is what you will attract! Have an absolutely, “upmost” Loving new year! Every day is there to create more and better fitting decisions. Each day YOU decide what is best for YOU!
What if nobody wants ME?
A lot of both men and women who have visited my office over the last couple of years, are without any doubt in search or have been in search for the TRUE ONE.
The prince on the white horse, the princess in the tower that longs to be rescued, the man with the Ferrari, the woman with the high heels and short skirts, the man with the charming laugh and enough money, the woman with the perfect smile and body…
As long as we hold on to the belief that the TRUE ONE is unreachable, though we do wish for it to become true, we will not succeed. We only project our wishes upon the person who NEEDS to supply us with what WE want. But it is the vision of YOU, most of the time you see the person you WANT to see, instead of the person who he or she REALLY is…Most of the time this will become more clear after three months to half a year. People have not been authentic, they are showing more and more of the real person they are and tear your projection apart.
This is the main reason why most people break up with each other. They expected the other person, the subject of their love, to be the TRUE ONE by PROJECTING THEIR WANTS to this person. Blinded by love, is a saying that stands for this.
How to deal with it?
NEVER, EVER date a guy or a gal over and over again, without knowing their wants! Be clear on what YOU want, and ASK what the other persons wants are!
Whenever they do NOT want to tell you this, get the F…out of there!!!! You will get disappointments you did not want, you will be dealing with other interests, you will feel whatever you do not want to feel and all of this because you have not been clear on what you wanted! So, why taking all this trouble to be with somebody that is not the true fit for you at all?
Many people I have seen in my work have been terribly disappointed in their partner, are having affairs, (they do not want to throw away their old shoes before they know they actually can walk on new shoes….) they are not able to make a real decision (what if this happens, or what if that happens) they act out of fear instead of trust and they feel alone and not happy at all….
Song by Peter Gabriel! Come TALK TO ME!!! Real great song to listen to and to enjoy watching…One of the best artists I have ever seen….
The wants you decide to be important to YOU are the wants that are important to the person to date! So tell them this directly! He or she wants to get to know you, right? So let them know you! EXACTLY the way you are!
There is no reason at all to be afraid of ANYTHING! Why? Because when this person you will be dating is NOT interested in your wants, he is not YOUR want!!! Ha! Never think, will this guy, or will this girl be able to see me, even like me? Will he or she want more of me? NO!
Turn this around! Is this the guy or gal that I want? And does he or she fit in my wants list? Believe me, this is such a time-saver…..It will never cost you more than at the most two dates! And it will prevent you from disappointments, feeling misunderstood, fear and all kind of other emotions which are totally unnecessary. And it will not only do this, it will also save you lots of ENERGY!!! YOOHOO!
Now, the title of this blog is:
What if nobody wants me?
This is so true! Only read it different this time:
What if Mr. or Miss/Mrs. Nobody wants me? Think about that! Do YOU want a Mr., Ms., or Mrs. Nobody in your life?
Or do you DECIDE to go for what YOU want?