“The hardest thing can be to believe that you are holding on to a belief that does not suit you….”
Now, here is a cliffhanger! Not in the normal way, but in the following perspective; you are hanging on the cliff (your belief) and you all of a sudden realize that you have been holding on to a belief that actually isn’t yours…What do you do? Let go of it and fall down in unknown water? Interesting question here….
I see many people who are struggling with this question. To realize that a belief does not bring you what you always expected it to do is one thing. But to let go of the old belief, not knowing what to do next, can provide you with anxiety, why?
Thinking about the hundreds of people I have mentored in my office during the last couple of years, I came to the conclusion that anxiety was always there, no matter what the belief was, there seemed to be a part of them that held on to the belief that something bad might, or even would happen if they would let go of old beliefs that were not helpful to them.
So, I started to ask questions.
‘Why do you do that?’
‘I don’t know!’
My answer to that was: ’Take a guess!’
Aha! THEN people start to think!
Person says: ‘First guess would be that I am used to this way of believing. ‘
‘How does that feel?’ I ask.
‘I don’t know, I guess I just am not used to it, it makes me feel unsure. Not knowing what to do or how to react, I think.’
From here on, people start to analyze their own thoughts, to discover that they have been taking over other persons thoughts and held on to that.
To discover this means, that there is another belief or that there are other thoughts under that belief. It’s already there, waiting to be dis- covered…
I want to give you an example. One day a woman came to my office, she was suffering from a frog mania (ranidaphobia). We started to look at the pictures she brought with her; I always get a lot of information out of the pictures of people that have or have had a certain influence on my client. (This is called psychometric viewing).We never talked about the frog mania but after 3 consults she was completely done with it and even became totally fearless of frogs! She knows there are some frogs in her garden and she became friends with them…As she came for the last time, I smiled as she said:
‘But we even never discussed my fear of frogs and now it’s all gone! How can this be?’ Sometimes we see the beliefs we have been taking over from The Others as our own beliefs. We BUY them, COPY them, without even THINKING about it. Isn’t it a strange and remarkable thing to see that we are buying beliefs that actually do not make us happy?
My question here to you all would be this:
Can you look at the beliefs you hold on to and do not make you happy? And THEN can you let go of the beliefs that belong to The Others? (Like the ones you took over from your parents, school teachers, friends, neighbors, favorite actor, television/ media) etc. without judging yourself for doing that? Without feeling guilty? And therefore come back to what is YOUR belief? Curious how this will be for you, please write a comment on this one!