As you know, everything is set on beliefs. Our beliefs are the most empowering forces in life. They guide us, heal us, give insights, play with us and challenge us. The power of a spoken word though, can be more deceiving than a written one. The reason for that is this; once written, a word lies there on the virgin white paper; it cannot be put into other words anymore. It is….Maybe a clever person can try to make up a belief that will give the word another meaning, but that is limited.
You can tell your best friend some news, but the response to that surprises you. So, you change the meaning of the word and make a joke out of it. Hoping that your friend will NOT think negatively about you.
But how about a spoken word that is meant in a certain and definite way and is later withdrawn?
Like a twisting around with words in order to get the most out of it?
Inauthentic words can rule a nation, a marriage, or a bond in friendship. It can manipulate, create conspiracy or even create a trap of lies and fear. Inauthentic words have created war, endless discussions, murder and destruction. Lies instead of truth. Even in daily situations, like conversations in a classroom, in a bus or in a simple chat between two customers in a shop. How many times do we tell lies, little ones that cannot hurt? Lies to “protect” other persons we love, because the truth would heart them too much. In our beliefs….Each day people lie.
Each day we get disappointed by the inauthenticity we hear.
Why do we do that?
Wouldn’t it be great when we would say EXACTLY what we MEAN to say? Without being over polite and without mistrust or suspicion?
The world is overruled by people who are trained to act inauthentic. We lie about everything, each day, over and over again. And we feel pretty good by that. We are taught to rather tell a lie than the truth. The truth would not be polite, kind, or would not be appreciated by The Others.
I stopped playing that role. I tell persons what my thoughts are. In a very polite but direct way. Kindly and with a warm heart towards the person I am talking to. I feel appreciated for talking the truth.
The lies I was taught, I refuse to reproduce. I disconnected myself from them. Does this mean that I NEVER lie? Yes and no.
I do not WANT to lie at all. But when it comes to extraordinary situations that could harm, really harm, I keep my silence.
But of course that is a belief too; it is my belief and I feel pretty good with it…..