The title of this post is also the title of the first full-length screenplay I completed. In the screenplay-through the characters-I posed the question of what defines real, “true” freedom. The answer given was that “true freedom” meant that ALL options were open to you, that there were no doors that were closed and that it meant that the only limit to your freedom was the choices that you made. And within our current society, I posed that the only way to achieve this was to be rich. To have enough money so that no door was closed to you. Now this DOESN’T mean that having lots of money makes you HAPPY, as my protagonist (Gordon Lockehart) found out, but it meant that the choice of his rise or demise and each step he took along that path was HIS to make.
In complete and perfect counterpoint to that is the movie that Mary and I are watching called “Into The Wild”, where the lead character (real-life adventurer Chris McCandless, who goes by the awesome traveling moniker of “Alexander Supertramp”) decides that HIS view of true freedom comes from having NOTHING. In fact, whereas my story uses the gaining of basically unlimited funds to cut Gordon loose from his percieved bonds and set the story in motion, Chris literally burns a stack of money to symbolize his setting himself free into his new, desired life.
Which of these paths to freedom is the right one? Which one appeals most to you? Do you have an alternate definition of freedom than “having no doors closed to you”? What would that be? Feel free to answer any or all of these questions in a comment below.
And how does this apply to relationships, or, in particular, to my relationship with Mary? Because I feel true and complete freedom within my relationship with Mary. And that includes the definition of freedom that I gave above–the one that defines what I believe freedom is: that all choices are open to me. Everything between a love relationship that lasts for eternity or multiple lifetimes, or one that ends today. Those choices and everything in between are open to me in this moment. And what this means for Mary is that every moment of every day, I choose her over and over again. Not out of obligation or out of worry about what anyone else will think, simply because she is everything I WANT in an amazing, wonderful, adventurous love relationship and so I get to choose that over and over each day!
But there’s more to this concept, this post, and how it relates to our lives in this moment, and at this point it will have to be continued tomorrow…come back then for more of how this relates to our lives and the changes they are undergoing in this moment…and to tide you over, just a little Tommy Shaw talking about a great way to look at creating a relationship: “true love should be…two hearts set free…”