Today I worked at the office with clients. It is a wonderful and very satisfying feeling to be able to help people who really want to get answers for themselves. The remarkable thing is that people seem to forget every now and then, to connect to themselves. Though we strongly believe we do, we can have periods in which we do not connect to the real us at all. Time is too short, or we don’t feel like wanting to look inside. Too much trouble, not willing to be busy with these things because we hold on to the belief we already NEED to do SO MUCH other stuff. But who is in charge of that? Who decides to give priority to things that really matter and things we like to do? How much energy is lost because we THINK about NEEDING to do certain things. While in fact, DOING them takes less time… Making a LIST of all the things you believe you HAVE to do, can make a difference. Then looking at your list, you can decide what your real priorities are. Then decide how much of these priorities you want to do that day and the days that come after that. By not pressing yourself with doing more than 2 things per day, you will de-stress yourself. And you will have enough time to do them! With even time to do certain things you love to do too!
We often make our lives far more complicated than they really are. Try this and experience the feeling of being able to overlook all of your stuff and even have reserve time to spend the way you want to with other things. What a relief! Is this control? You could call it control, though this word can be different to each of us. Language can include a personal explanation. Control to me is FRIED AIR! It does not do very much for me, because I hold on to the belief that we do not CONTROL ANYTHING! Life can change the things we wanted to do, I am the “go with the flow” kind of gal. Life is taken by me, the way life is taking me. This does not imply that I do not schedule myself at all. I feel very much disciplined to write each day, to work at the office and to do errands in the house. But there is a priority in that. First I work to be able to live. My work does not control me! The time I have left is to write. Each day I write a blog, each day I am busy with pre- writing in my head with other books. And this pre-writing is very much relaxing to me. Once I have an idea for a book to work out, I start a new book. I will be writing book 8 of the Dolphin Adventure Series for children. Further I am writing another book in my head that will be written after that Dolphin book. I used to THINK a lot about writing, but did not make it into something concrete. So it gave me a very unsatisfied feeling. Even felt frustrated from time to time. Now I am taking my own discipline in this, it is giving me a huge energy and a very satisfying feeling! In my rehabilitation program at the hospital which I took for my whiplash, I was taught to work 45 minutes, then pause 15 minutes or more, then write again. Whenever my neck hurts too much, I pause longer or stop. I cannot write any longer than 1 or one and a half hour, then my neck is killing me. At first I started to feel frustrated, but it took a lot of my energy which did not feel good at all! So I decide to get rid of all of the things that made me feel frustrated, each by each. There are times I can handle this perfectly. There are times in which I feel a victim of the situation. Both of the times I perfectly know and fully understand that this is ME doing that! Knowing where your beliefs come from can make a hell of a difference, it is offering myself the possibility to decide what to feel. And sometimes I feel like wanting to feel sad and I choose to feel the full situation; someone hit my car and because of that I am having this burning painful sensation in my neck, shoulders and arms. Because of that I have less hearing ability in my right ear. Because of that I have a headache each day etc. When I decide to feel angry, frustrated and sad, I know I will not be able to work that great. So I have chosen to stay positive, despite the pain. Which works better for me than when I decide to do not. What beliefs do you hold on to? Are you a victim of your situation? Or do you decide to stay positive?