How to find real love is the title of the blog that Brian and I are writing here. We are apart from each other, being not physically together creates a sharp pain in my soul. I am able to choose for the warm and strong feeling that our Love contents, still I feel both extremely happy and deeply sad at the same time. I choose to feel both at this moment. The knowledge that we are deeply connected from soul to soul is always there. But the missing too, so today I choose to cry. Feeling these strong emotions, it may be strange to express it like this, but I embrace them both. Crying is helpful to me; it expresses my feelings and what I feel through my tears. But most of all I feel the real Love for my Brian. That lifts me up and immediately after thinking this, I feel a big smile coming up.
I feel strong and safe, I feel warm and overwhelmingly loved. The safest place ever is with him. What Brian and I share is something I wish every single soul may experience.
I have always known that somewhere out there was the soul that would one day connect to me. That I found Brian has nothing to do with it, it is of less importance. What counts is that we connected in such a strong and perfectly loving way, it brings so much strength and is so empowering!
Of course it is hard at certain times; I would love to feel Brian next to me in person. Still I feel Brian next to me in person, even when he is not physically here. The look in his eyes, his hand searching for mine, the beautiful silence we can enjoy, our laughter, our view on life, our talking, our sharing, our togetherness….it’s all there. We feel one as we are two persons with our own personalities. Isn’t that amazing? The most extraordinary is that we accept each other without any holding back, without any judgment and with all of our love!
We never quarrel. We do not have any fights. We are not arguing. How can this be? Being together the way we are, means that we are in total acceptance with each other. This creates an enormous field of being us, no matter what. Which creates an inner peace that is so warm and loving, we can just say ANYTHING to each other without creating a negative emotion to it. We are two different persons. Because we share the same view on life, we are totally open to what we feel, say or think. Can you imagine a relationship without fights, quarrels or disagreements that are difficult to handle? Well, we are in the greatest, the best, and the most loving relationship we ever had! It feels absolutely great!
But, what do we hear from The Others?
True love? That ain’t possible!
I do not believe in fairy tales!
Love like that only happens in movies, not in real life!
Wait until you are with each other more…
Now you are looking through a colored pair of glasses, this will change!
You only see him the way you WANT to see him, wait till he shows his real self to you!
Maybe you are happy now, but that won’t last. I will talk to you after 10 years, wanna bet that you are having fights all the time, it’s always like that! Etc. etc.
This means that there are a LOT of people out there who are UNHAPPY, UNSATISFIED and do NOT FEEL LOVED.
How come? Don’t they want the most amazing, the most loving relationship ever? Of course they do! But why do they settle for less?
In my opinion it all has to do with the way we are raised, brought up. The Others say: True love is a wish, not a reality. Wake up! There is not such a thing as “they live happily ever after!”
Well, have I got news for you!
TRUE LOVE REALLY EXCISTS!!!!
It all has to do with what YOU DECIDE TO BELIEVE. What YOU decide to choose as YOUR BELIEF…..
When you think that the truth is that true love will never last, you will attract true love that will never last…
When you think that real love is not possible, you will NEVER find it…
When you think that each relationship is nice and loving at the start, but will change during the years, this is EXACTLY what you will get…
We OWN our thoughts, remember? Our thoughts send out a vibration that gives us exactly what we expect. The universe gives us what we believe is there for us…
When we understand that this is what can create unhappiness as well as happiness, this also means that we can CHANGE our thoughts with new insights. That we can CHOOSE how to think, this will attract more happiness when we change our thoughts into what we REALLY WANT! I will give you a personal example.
Everyone in my family thought I was totally crazy as I told them that I would be a writer. Now I am.
Everyone in my family thought I was crazy, even totally insane, as I was telling them that I would find the true love of my life. I did.
Everyone in my family thought I was mentally disturbed, as I was telling them that I did not belong in Holland. That I did not feel at home here, never did. And that I wanted to move, even more, I told them I was absolutely sure that I would move within 3 years. I plan to leave this year for America to live my life together with my beloved Brian.
Coincidence? I don’t think so. I believe that everything is a choice…
Everything you want is possible.
To believe this seems to be the difficulty, we are raised in a way of creating negative expectations. It’s almost like an unwritten rule that only a few can get what they really want. Think about this; is that truly what YOU BELIEVE? Right now?