The 16th of March, today is a very special day…It is Brian’s birthday!
Though we are not together on this day in a physical way, we are definitely together. I congratulated him by phone, Skype and saw him there. for a short moment by videocall. He looked so close and I SO wanted to wrap my arms around him, kiss him and “squeezingly” hug him! Ha ha ha ha! He wore a new sweater in heavenly blue, in which he looked so gorgeous, which by the way is his nickname. To me Brian is my Mister Gorgeous! LOL!
Back to the event birthday. A birthday is a very special day; we celebrate the day the person involved was given birth to. I have been thinking differently about birthdays from time to time. I loved it when I was a kid. I remember that I was lying in my bed, listening to the sounds of my mom and dad, who were decorating the living room. I remember that I was way too excited to be able to fall asleep… Each birthday I asked for a dog. I never got it. Still my birthdays were filled with joy, aunts I really loved, nieces and friends came to our house and there were a lot of presents….As I grew older, I did not like my birthday very much anymore. My experience was that everybody I knew was not present, since my birthday is on the 13th of July; a holiday period. Later on I started to dislike birthdays in general, because it looked like people who were visiting the birthday party, were not really that much interested and even told me that they felt it as some kind of a duty to come. And then there was the “what on earth do I have to give” issue…Some families were very competitive in their search for the “right” or the “most sensational” gift. Some birthday parties were to impress the neighbors, other birthday parties were to discuss the way the guests were dressed, not very much my kind of party….
A few years ago I stopped celebrating my birthday, because I realized that most people did not have time to come and felt it as a sort of obligation. When there is one thing I dislike, it is when people behave unauthentic. I believe that when friends of mine want to come, they will come at the time they want to. A birthday can be fun, but only when friends really LIKE to come. Nowadays I celebrate it with my kids, since it is in a holiday period. My friends come to see me whenever they get back and that is the way I like it.
The birthday of Brian is different because he is not here and his family is not with him. Still Brian felt great, I sang “Happy Birthday to you” right into his voicemail and left several messages on face book and his mail. On face book a lot of friends congratulated him. So, the way we look at birthdays can be very different. Celebrities very often give a HUGE and very expensive party, rich girls who celebrate their 16th birthday get one or even more expensive cars and an enormous party. In poor countries kids get a homemade toy and are more than satisfied. We all celebrate on different frequencies.
Some of us only think of the party, the presents and the way they can impress The Others. Some of us think back of WHY they were born and reach out for their destiny. We all are developing our tools, skills, our senses. We are all travelling on the path that is called life.
Somewhere on that path, we sometimes follow an inner sense, an inner feeling, also called the inner voice.
I followed my inner voice as I saw the little picture of Brian on the face book site of Iris Tuomenoksa, my dear friend from Holland. I still can remember a part of her message: “Ah, I never thought of connecting the two of you together….” She and her husband Mark are very happy that Brian and I met, as we are too! I followed my inner voice in this strongly! We created a new family, lots of them we know from The Option Institute (www.option.org).
What I want to tell you all is the next: Hear your inner voice!
Does this mean that you ONLY follow that without thinking about it? No! It means that FIRST you hear your inner voice that is telling you what to do, THEN you think about it and THEN you act the way you choose to act. Living by your inner voice will be a life rewarding decision. Whenever you want to make a decision in life, start to FEEL first. What do I feel when I would make this decision, do I feel restful or do I feel restless? And how about when I would decide this? What do I feel then? Inner peace? Or hesitation? What gives you rest, what gives you inner peace is the right thing.
Now, since we are gifted with a beautiful mind, we very often THINK we KNOW what is best for us by THINKING only. Or by projecting what our WANTS are. We want to make a decision in the way we WANT it. GREAT! But it will even be better when we use our inner voice. ..Whenever we do NOT use that inner voice, we do it the way we THINK is best for us. And later, thinking back about it, we have to admit that we KNEW from the start that it would not work the way we THOUGHT was right and realize that our inner voice was right all the time. But we chose to ignore that. Itis like when we are doing an examine. The first thing that comes into our mind is the right thing, but we keep on thinking about it and then change what we write down. Óutcome: wrong answer!!!
My wish to all of you is to experience the inner compass we all are given. To lead the life you want and to achieve that in the direct way that IS possible. And, for all of us who will celebrate their birthday: celebrate it with your heart, soul and mind. In total balance!