With enormous amazing I have been watching a program at television about celebrities. The way they live, the way they talk. For movie stars who just got a baby there seems to be only one rule; losing weight again fast! Before you know it, another actress can take your place…Enjoying the weeks before and after birth? Almost impossible because of the tight schedule in which they “have” to do workouts…Of course there are exceptions in this, but most of the celebrities seem to care more about the way they present themselves for the outside world and simply don’t have enough time to be busy with their inside world……I wonder what definition they have for the word happiness. Is it the perfect role in the perfect movie? Is it to have the most skunny figure? Or is it about your soul and the way you live your life to reach the goals you set up yourself at the start of your journey of life? Do they think about this or is Richard Gere one of the rare people who seem to feel and know that life is about more than just the way you look or are looked at?
How many actors or other famous people seem to look inside themselves in order to see who they really are? How many of them want to help to create a better world?
I normally don’t watch television a lot, but as I zapped from one channel to another, I felt more amazed. There was another program in which celebrities show their houses. Big houses, expensive cars ( more than they can drive in), golden faucets, advanced high technique in kitchens, expensive art on the walls, expensive clothes, shoes, enormous cabinets with suits, ties, etc.etc.
As I watch this all, I feel disbelief. Let me explain this to you.
In my way of thinking I share. Even when I have only little I will still share what I have. Looking at these shows I see a lot of greed and the want to be seen as a real important person. One who belongs to the so called high society of celebrities. I do not judge it; I do see it and I do have an opinion about it.
As I can only talk for myself, I asked myself the question what I would do when I would have lots of money. The answer is simple, it would not change my point of view and I would love to SHARE. I would not buy golden faucets in my bathroom; I would not buy expensive cars. I would buy a good occasion! I would not buy expensive clothes of a thousand dollar or more. I would buy mine at Wall-mart or Sears or a place like that. Why go with the flow in “celebrity land” when I can do so much good with the money I would save from buying all that?
Sure, when I would have a lot of money I would love to buy myself a nice house, never had that. A place to work from, to live in and to receive our guests. With a lot of money I would want to help my kids and friends. But I would also be the creator of projects for homeless people, kids with problems etc. etc.
The next question that pops up with me is the question why celebrities believe they NEED to be in good shape ALL the time, can’t be photographed when they have a bad hair day and feel totally stressed out when they are spotted in bikini and their legs are NOT photoshopped and show some cellulite? Now I know the tabloids do great business with that but why would I pay money to buy a magazine in which the cellulite is shown of a celebrity?What do you think? Instead I rather buy a bread!
It’s another world to me…
Every person can feel totally free to buy these magazines, whenever that feels good go ahead. When I am at the hairdresser he will give me some of these magazines. I look at them and feel stunned. Does this mean that I come from another planet? Or am a hypocrite because I do read it but don’t buy it? The answer is a simple NO!
How people can react sometimes can be a total surprise to me. I can feel amazed when I drive in my car and want to park somewhere. There is no parking lot available and I drive over the parking area trying to find a spot to park my car. Now this is Holland and I do realize that perfectly, but what comes in the mind of a person to get out of your car and start a fight with another driver who wants to park in the same place? What is so important that they even fight with their fists to get it? Their spouse in the car, white faces, little noses pressed to the window and looking scared? Is it the belief they hold that who sees first is the winner? Why can’t there be respect? And tolerance?
What is it that creates the belief people want to be “seen” by The Others? Is it a lack of self esteem? Is it because they feel the need to PROVE themselves? Or is it because they want to be a person they are not and want us to believe they are? Do they “need” to feel confirmed? Why don’t they look at who they really are and confirm themselves? Why nee another person to tell you how good, loving or incredible handsome you are when you know you?
When I translate that into my own way of living I can honestly tell you that I choose to be me. Always…So whenever I am talking to you here, or talking to the Queen I am the same person. I have no hidden agenda, what you see is what you get. And I LOVE IT! I am HAPPY to be ME!
How about you? Do you feel like you are your real self all the time? Or do you pay the (high) price for it in order to be liked by The Others? And why is that so important to you? Why would the real you, under ALL circumstances, not be good enough?
Do you really believe that you are not accepted when you would be the real you, always?
Look at the people that surround you, do they COST energy or do they GIVE you energy? Is there a balance or is it a battle to see who can hold on to the power? Which end of the rope do you hold on to? When they do COST energy, why would you choose to be with them? This blog is ALL about tools you can use in relationships and Love relationships. The relationships we believe we CHOOSE, but do we really choose to have people around us that only cost energy? Who CAUSE the stimulus we react on? With emotions, such as anger, sadness and unhappiness? They do not MAKE us feel that, we always do that ourselves. But why stay in a relationship/ Love relationship when its not the Love we want to have in our lives but do allow to be there. Is it a habit? Is it fear to tell the other person the truth? Ask youself this question…How is this in YOUR life? Do you claim your loves one? In order to FORCE him or her to stay with you? Do you want to be in control of him/ her? Do you want to be confirmed all the time? Are you the real you in this relationship/ Love relationship?
Why stay in the relationship when you feel humiliated, depressed, even captured? When your partner does not only NOT love you but ignores you and tells you things you are not? When counseling or communicating does not help, what is the use of staying? Was it a good relationship or did you project your WANT IT TO BE a good relationship? There is a mutual thing in all relationships, friendships, love relationships, at work, or wherever you are. The thing that can solve your problems in relationships. What is that?Choose to be you! At ALL TIMES! A greater gift you cannot give yourself. It will help you to not only be authentic yourself but it will be a bless to ask your partner or friend to do the same. Why pretending to be better than you are? Why not give the real you in order to get what you want?
Remember the only moment there is, is the NOW. In the moment NOW you can ALWAYS make new choices. Be the creator of the life you want, start to look at yourself and ask yourself the next question:
‘Is the life I chose to live the life I really want?’