We are all on our way, walking our path of life into the direction we hope is good for us. But how many of us are walking the side paths and feel unhappy and not in harmony at all?
As I was reading some messages on face book today, I saw a message from our dear friend C.L. She does not have a home for herself on this moment, so Brian and I offered her to stay at our place. She will join us as a friend, to overcome her homeless situation. Both Brian and I enjoy her company very much and we call her a true friend. This is not because we really KNOW each other by many experiences we share. This MOSTLY is because we FEEL who we are. She feels like a sister to me, it feels like we have known each other before, could also be we feel related because of a past life together. I have met several people in this life I felt related to in past lives as well.
C.L. is a talented person with a beautiful soul, she wants to be a giving person and does not think a lot about herself. Homeless, no job, and no clear direction what her path in life is at this moment or will be in the future. This is what many people experience. For example they WANT to work but cannot find a job. They WANT a home, but without a job that’s impossible. “Lost” people very often are strong and very sensitive people. They can even be “Light workers”; old souls who seem to have a hard time in this world with lots of ego minded people. They are the “Givers” among the “Takers”.
They very often have a low self esteem and want to please The Others. Even when this means they do not get what THEY want in life. The desire or want to create happiness for their partner, Lover, friend etc. is the highest goal they choose to serve.
“Lost…or Taken?” is the title I chose for this blog. The reason why I will explain to you.
I already spoke about the “Lost” people, the “Givers”. Well, the reason these people feel lost might be because they give themselves away. This can even be done in a self destructive way. They can have the feeling they are not allowed to enjoy things themselves. They can have the belief they can only do good by “Have to’s and “Must do’s, Should do’s and feel a judging pressure on themselves. Their want is to please The Others.Whenever they can please or take care or Love another person they create happyness. they believe they “need” other people to confirm their good behavior. They believe they are nobody without that. They create happiness because they are “allowed”by The Others”… Givers want to mean something, they want to matter, they want to GIVE…When these “Lost” people are “Taken” it can mean several things.
First of all they can decide to be literally Taken (in) by the ego minded people who will suck up all their energy to let go of them when the Giver has no energy left. Without any gratitude and leaving the Giver behind. The Giver will believe they did not try hard enough or did do something wrong because they feel dependant from the Taker. The second scenario might be the Giver will be Taken(by the hand) by true and Loving people who walk on their path of Life to Take them away from that all and show them it’s okay to be you… It means the Giver will meet someone on their path of life at the right place and the right time. To take them away from the circle that dooms them and keeps them from their true destination.
Believe and Trust that you will meet the right person or persons at the right time and know that what you expect is what you create!………
When you do not expect to become real happy, you are sending that negative energy into the air around you. You will attract those people who will make your expectations come true. This will confirm your belief: ‘See?I am not going to be truly happy, I already expected this to happen’……….
The victimizing thought that can easily take over might be:
‘Happiness is something I will never get, it’s just not meant to be for me. Why does this always happen to me? I am sweet to so many people, what do I do wrong? Why can’t I just be loved?’
Well….maybe it’s because you do not really believe that you deserve happiness. Maybe you believe you are not worthy enough in the eyes of you and you project this on The Others. Maybe you create events to confirm your belief by choosing those people that will confirm your negative expectations.
Ever thought you already feel happy when a person is able to love YOU? Or be NICE to you? Well, start turning that around!
Change the negative thought: Who wants me? into : Who is good enough for me? Who do I want?
I knew I would meet Brian one day. And though it was very hard to hold on that thought, I did chose to do so. It was a long time of waiting and attracting the wrong guys, it took a long time since I had “seen” Brian in a dream when I was 9 years old and had “seen” him again about 8 years ago. But he did not show up! Still I wanted to cherish the expectation that I would meet him. My Mister Right did exist, I simply KNEW that! People, including my Mom, told me I was totally believing in fairy tales and things like this did not exist. I proved them to be wrong…My Mister Right lives 7000 miles away from me and I still feel him each second. As he feels me. We were meant to be together. I never gave up on that thought and my expectation came true. What would have happened when I would have given up my expectation? I would not have sent good energy into the universe and Brian and I would probably have never found each other (back). I learned to NEVER GIVE UP. Not even when EVERYTHING seemed to be against me. I kept strong, chose for Trust instead of Fear or bitterness and held on to my inner feeling instead of believing I was not meant to be happy, ever…I stopped JUDGING myself and now I feel myself to be the most Loved and desirable woman on the whole planet! Does this mean I am the most attractive woman in the entire world? No. But it does mean I feel totally happy with myself, I am 52, I have a thick ass and short legs and I totally and absolutely Love every inch of me!
The moment I changed my belief that I WAS worthy enough and I DID DESERVE Happiness and TRULY BELIEVED this, my life started to change. As a Giver I was used to be grateful with the crumbs, I did not really believe I was entitled to have a whole bread for myself, so I did not expect and create that.
A Giver will most likely develop a sense of guilt when he/she is asking something for him/herself. This because a Giver almost always does not give anything to him/herself! They will be very easy manipulated by the Takers who only think about one very important thing: to create happiness for THEM, not for the Giver.
I have never become a Taker, I am a balanced woman now. I feel like I am allowing myself to Give and to Receive. I do not TAKE, I am GIVEN things by people who see me the way I am.
Back to our dear friend C.L. She has been a Giver all of her life, she has been manipulated and does not even allow herself to call it that way, because when she does she will create guilt. It means she would judge the Taker and this is something that’s very hard to do. Of course there can be anger involved in breaking up, still the Giver will very fast start to think and believe again this would have never happened if he/ she would have tried harder or would have act differently. The most terrible thing to a Giver is the unbearable thought to be misunderstood, to leave an impression of failure. They start to create guilt. They feel like they did not try enough. They believe they are not good enough. They even punish themselves for bad behavior in their past so they actually do not deserve to feel happiness. They always believe The Others are way better than they are. They are not able (yet) to see the beautiful soul they own. How to end this all?
STOP LOOKING AT YOU THROUGH THE EYES OF THE OTHERS
STOP PUNISHING YOURSELF
BE IN THE PRESENT
BE IN THE NOW… for this is the only moment there is. It’s all about the here and Now…
You can also choose to look at yourself the way you are by soul energy. No air floating rubbish here! No! Who you are is who you REALLY are deep inside, the person who IS your soul instead of the person you show. By performing, acting or pretending to be a person whom you feel will be accepted by The Others, you will not feel innerly connected to your own soul anymore. You can even feel feel like you are empty inside. Or feel like not really seen or heard. Maybe you feel scared. Maybe you feel that when you show the real you, people won’t like you. Maybe you feel scared because you believe you always HAVE to be this strong, cheerful and popular person The Others see in you. But that is just a part of the beautiful YOU…Be yourself! Show your inside and when you do not know anymore who you really are because you have played a character for many years you are not at all, stop doing that!
Did it bring you total Happiness? Did it bring you the right people in your life? Or did it take lots, no, tons of energy from you? Ever thought about why you feel so tired? Why you do not seem to be able to be on the path of your destination? And create deep Happiness?
I want to leave this with you and end this blog with just a thought.
Are you truly you?