Love is the drug….When you have experienced Love, you want more and more of it. So can we say that Love is addictive? YES! I would even say, fortunately YES!
As a baby we are not only nourished, but we are welcomed and Loved. Cuddled, kisses, etc. are normal. But there are babies who do not get that at all. Children who get molested, abused, “thrown” away….There are adults who do not believe in Love because they cannot open themselves up anymore. Trust is gone and Fear is King. It rules their world.
I believe Love is the drug that can heal anything, everywhere. Always. The only thing is that we sometimes seem to be lost in Love…
Love is in us, but when it is not touched, not developed, it could be we cannot reach out for it anymore.
Love obviously is there when a new child is born, but is this true? How many children have grown up and are adults now, who have never experienced the safety of their mother’s arms, their base of safety never given by their parents or other family? Who were molested, abused or neglected? Even ignored or told they should have never been born? Can you imagine how your life would have been when this had happened to you? What choice would you have made?
I believe in Love….I believe babies are here because they have chosen to be here, exactly at that spot and with their parents. I believe children are not only to be taught by the parents, I believe children can teach the parents as well. Sharing their insights, talking about what life presents them and the parents. Being open to each other and feeling Safe…. Why would a child choose for a life in which he or she gets treated so badly? How can you choose a place like that to grow up? These questions can pop up while reading this blog.
My thoughts are clear on that. Every single soul creates the circumstances he or she needs to be able to reach their goals they intended to achieve before they were born. Being a soul you have the inheritence of past lives, archived in your soul. You and only you choose what your destination is. You choose what you want to reach for. Like standing up for yourself, making yourself a better person or get rid of low self esteem. The circumstances you are going to face will in fact HELP you to stand up for yourself. To become a better person or to get rid of your low selfesteem. In fact these circumstances are HELPING you to create more wisdom, more insights and more Happiness.
True, it can be a very hard and tough process, but when you feel you realize you have chosen these parents to be able to develop yourself and to be there at that time and spot to get the best out of you and even out of your parents, you will look at it differently! Once you feel you are on the path of your destination, you will feel so Empowered! And Happy! It all has to do with how you look at yourself, that view and the beliefs you hold will make your world. I had to start to Love myself the way I was. Without judging me. I started to Love myself after I stopped Judging myself. And Life has been so much better after that!
We all have a choice how we decide to Live. Children who have been abused or molested or who have not been loved have a choice. One question: Where do I connect myself with? Anger? Fear? Feeling a victim? Living in the past? Not being able to forgive? Using the bas things to become a bitter person? Or do we see THROUGH the circumstances and take out the lessons of life and the insights we are offered?
I have had a tough life. I have Loved and I have lost. I have raised my children on my own. I have made my “mis- takes” which have lead to so much good. I have taught my children to look at what is hidden IN the problem and Why the problem is there. What is it trying to tell you? Can you See it? Do you Want to look for what insight is hidden in the problems? Everything happens with a reason and Everything is connected…
One of the things I have set as my destination was to stand up for myself and to really believe in myself. No one believed I was able to write and publish my books. My ex husband asked me in a nasty way if I really believed there would be any publisher who would ever publish what I wrote???? I did not get much support in this. Except for my father who always said:” I dont know if you will succeed as a writer but you have the talent so go for it! Make your dreams come true whenever you see a chance!”
I remember my dad teaching me how to ride a bike. His warm hand pushing me at my back untill I was riding my first bike on my own. I believed he still was there behind me, but as I looked back my father was standing at the end of the street! I immediately got scared and started to zigzag, almost falling of my bike. Then my dad put his hands around his mouth and yelled: Ride on! You can do it!!!
This simple sentence has helped me the rest of my life, so whenever I was having some doubts and hesitated, I “heard” my father yell this again and I felt empowered again!
Love is the drug….people who experience Love can believe it is there for granted. But it is not, it never is. Whenever you are in a relationship or whenever you are with people you Love, TELL them how much you appreciate the, Tell them how special they are to you, tell them you Love them… But he or she KNOWS I Love him or her. Why do I “ need” to tell him or her I do?
Because they Love hearing it even when they get uncomfortable or shy when you do. Because people want to be Loved and to give Love. Even the persons who are totally blocked and do not seem to be able to get it out of thier throat.
But what is in it for me then?
What’s in it for you is that your process of uncondittionaly Loving will develop. It is not even that important how the other person responds, it is all about you giving your Love to another person without expecting something back for it.
It is about Loving and Sharing and making this worls a better place to live in. Because you are there to give and share what people need most: Love…..Love is always knocking on your door, it’s up to you if you can and want to open that door to let Love in.
What could hold you from opening up to let Love in?
Is it Fear? To protect you from being hurt when some person takes his or her Love back from you? What does this tell you? Do you choose to believe this is the way you deserve it? To close up for ever? Or do you choose to believe a way better Love will come your way to live the Life with you Really want? Never settle for less, it’s like buying something in a store. You see it, you know it is not exactly what you want, but it seems to look like it or seems to be close enough. Then, when you walk in another store a couple of weeks later, you see what you REALLY wanted and you feel sorry for buying the other one. You ignored your Inner Voice and settled for less…what did it bring you? And what did you choose and decide to do at that point? You always have a choice and it is never too late. Recognize it?