The more you want the less you get. This was my thought yesterday as I saw the greed of people who want the best of the best and can’t be satisfied with less.
Still I believe less can be more…
Material stuff like cars, houses, clothes, shoes etc. which are special designs will have a certain value for certain people. Unfortunately even children are raised with the fast moving throw- away society where you HAVE to have the newest cellphone, and the best I-pod. Even kids look what kind of cellphone the other kid has and NEEDS the same or even a newer model. Why?
A few years ago I started to get rid of stuff. I don’t care about the newest black berry or the best design shoes or clothes. I wear what I like, trendy or not. I set my own trend and i feel great by doing that. But what is it in people that makes them WANT SO MUCH?
Is it because we want to Belong to the Group?
Is it because we feel more Safe when we are having the same stuff as the rest? And is this based on FEAR? Do we Believe we can only be a part of the group when we act like we are all the same, collecting the same stuff? Or can we be ourselves and like what we Really Like instead of buying things because of the opinion of The Others?
As I was going through my stuff I realized much of it could be done with. Things I kept for years like shoes that never fit me well, toys and clothes of the children which I saved for when they would have kids of their own, books I never read and got from people who never read them too, clothes which were too small and I kept just in case I would loose some weight. Covers for my bed which were kept because we could get people who would stay over for a night. Etc. etc. etc…..
I started to get rid of the doubt in myself first. Maybe I could use that in the future I transformed in: ‘I never used this for the past 6 years so what makes me believe that I will use it this year?’ Looking at it I decided to get a good destination for it. I got enthusiastic since I saw the attic became more and more empty. The clothes I gave away to my neighbor who will give them to poor people in her home country. The same for the shoes, hats, scarfs and coats nobody would ever wear again.
The throwing away hype did do something with myself too. I started to feel more organized in my head, like it literally cleaned up inside of me. It gave me lots of energy, even though I was tired at the end of the night, I felt very happy.
Now I looked at it in a different way, I started to see more and more I don’t need or want anymore. Oh yes, certainly, I could have sold things too, but I like to give things away! How does this all relate to (Love) relationships?
It’s about the same. I mostly was the one who kept the contacts going with certain people. Once I started to end that, I only kept the contact with people who really Love me and whom I really Love too. People who I accept and respect the way they are and they do the same to me. So I refused to keep the contact going, what happened? It cleared up many so called ‘polite friendships” with people who only informed how I was doing because they were raised to inform this in a polite way, not that they really felt something with that. I got a card with: ‘Still alive?’ Yes, I was. I got telephone calls of the Polite People who said they felt very disappointed in me I did not take any effort to contact them. I answered that this was right and that I felt the contact was built on trying to be polite and not on real interest in each other. They felt offended. So be it. I surround me with different people now. And I do not Need to see my friends each week. I do not blame them or tell them they do not call enough. Why? Because I know and Feel they Love me unconditionally and I Love them back that way. Because when you really Love another person it’s always a happy event when you see or talk with them. I conquered my Fear to confront them with my remarks. No longer afraid of what they MIGHT think or say, what a relief! Why would I feel fear when there was nothing to fear? I freed myself of contacts that were not sincere. No more of their rebukes and reprimands, but total openness and Freedom. Being myself, acting like myself. Isn’t this one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself and them?
I nowadays can manage my Life way better and do not feel any ‘guilt’ when I do not contact persons within a certain time. Selfish? No, don’t think so. Honest? Oh Yes! How do people respond to that? Offended sometimes, yep! Or they do not respond at all which is fine with me. I’d rather stay close with real friends than spend my time with lots of people who are dishonest and feel contacting me is an obligation instead of a pleasure. I have had friends who did not seem to be real friends after all. Did I feel disappointed? At first yes, a little. But then I also realized I already expected this to happen sooner or later because the contact was not open and everything was calculated. Their interest was always number one. When I called them they only talked about them. Or they started to ask why I did not respond their missed calls. I Should have called them and they asked in a very irritated way what possibly could have been my excuse to not appear on their birthday? Yes, I ‘lost’ so called friends who were no friends at all. And I gained other friends unexpectedly. A door will never be closed without opening up another one…that’s for sure!
So here we are, i’ ts the end of 2011 and I want to clean up more, get rid of things that bother me, arrange things I wanted to months ago. And I will feel very Happy and cherish everything in my Life I feel grateful for. There is so much to enjoy when you focus on the positive things in Life instead of focusing on the things you do not have. Each day I experience the gift of feeling blessed, even on my so called ‘off’ days….I feel the Universe is teaching me each day. I want open myself up to the Insights I am given each day. I feel very grateful and happy with that!
Even though Brian and I are 9000 miles away from each other, I decide to feel Trust we will be Together Soon. Trust is the most important Power, next to Faith and Believe but the first of all is Love….Love for the Ones you Love as well as Love for the many people who want to be Loved but get ignored. Love has many faces, Love is reaching out for a person who needs a helping hand. Love is helping each other, supporting or standing up for a person.
I will send out my most Loving Thoughts to embrace them all the people who need to feel Loved all over the world. Even when I do not see hear or know them, it’s all about Loving Energy and that energy travels by itself and reaches people all over the world.
I want to feel Love for myself, where I judged myself this last year. Unconditional Love, can you imagine a greater or more Empowered Force within you? The base of a good Life holds the ability to Love.
What do you decide to do with your ability to Love?