Many people live in a pattern caused by a decision they made years and years ago. This can concern a job or life circumstances. Some are married for years and years and believe the life they live is not great but also not bad. It is what they are used to. They sometimes can feel like something is missing, some of them even know what that missing is about. Still they continue. They even seem to be hibernating. Once they wake up, because of a conversation with a good friend or after watching a television show or a documentary or something different that awakes them, they suddenly start to look at their life and feel completely amazed. It’s like they never looked at their life in this way before. They start to awake. Some of them will continue looking at their life in this way and some will go into hibernation again.
I have seen many people in my office who felt depressed. They lived the life they once chose and didn’t understand why they felt something was missing. When I asked them why they believed something WAS missing, they look surprised. The first thing they say is universal: “I don’t know”… When I ask more they start to open up and are totally shocked as they dis-cover their truth.
How is this possible? The answer is quite simple. Actually it is so simple most people don’t notice it:
They have fallen asleep. Bit by bit, like someone sung a lullaby and rocked them into the apathetic accepted state of living they are in now. And sometimes, in an unexpected sudden way, they can wake up in shock, as if they see their life passing by without ever really noticing it. It’s like they suddenly see they were not very much alive at all, they were just existing. How many couples do you know in your environment who are happy with each other, real happy? How many couples do you know who are just together but are not really Together like in sharing true Togetherness?
Togetherness is a state of mind which is Connected by Soul Energy. Soul Energy is the highest level of interacting Love. Soul mates are people who are Together in a Soul Connected way. They look at each other and understand without a spoken word. They feel each other when they are not physically together. They start to feel restless when the partner they feel Connected with is not in a good state of mind.
This is what I call Love with a capital L. Caring, selflessly, spiritual consciousness, feeling the want to share, to level, to understand what the partner is thinking or feeling. Feeling the want to be the Giver as well as the Receiver. Loving with a capital L. is forgiving but also knows it’s borders.
This kind of Love is Self Respecting, Accepting, Non Judgmental, filled with empathy without losing one another in the process of sharing.
Most people believe this kind of Love is not very down to Earth. I disagree. I believe this kind of Love is very much in the here and Now, very practical and very into the process of every day. The other difference is that a Love like this will and can never be boring or predictable. It has an element of surprising effects in it. Like an unexpected note on the pillow of the Loved one. Or a poem you send. A little handwritten card, or an unexpected telephone call or a sweet text message. One rose, a ticket for the theater or an organized evening with friends, an unexpected dinner. Or unexpected intimacy. Everything is possible and you never know when this will be given or in what form that will be. This is Loving attention.
Another important thing in a (Love) relationship is telling the truth at all times. Every lie that occurs and is noticed will be like a leaf that falls down from the tree of Love. The more lies the more leafs will fall down. Until there is only the stem of the tree left. .. And even the three can shake and fall down. When the foundation is not there anymore, there will be only a small storm necessary or even a firm breeze and the tree will tumble and fall.
Staying True to oneself is incredibly important. Like a good friend told me today, staying true is what you need to be the real You. Firm and strong willing. Loving in a balance in the way of Giving and Receiving. Being honest. Being Respectful.
How about you?