About a year ago I watched a small video about a huge elephant who did not run away though he was not chained to a tree like he used to be. I saw him move several stems of trees that were chopped in the jungle and apparently he worked there all day. The elephant enjoyed the personal guidance of Mister Juul who seemed to be his best friend. Juul himself never had any friends so he and the Elephant felt very close Together. The elephant did not have a name different than Elephant. Or Elphy like Juul every now and then caledl him in a Loving way. When the interviewer asked why this elephant stood there as if he was chained the camera registered a remarkable outcome. Juul started to tell the story while the elephant worked on the stems.
This elephant had been chained for several years since he was very young. One day the chain broke. The elephant however did not run away. He just ignored it and stood there in exactly the same way he had been standing there for the past years. In his mind it made no difference if he literally was chained or not. He FELT chained. He got indoctrinated. The interviewer asked more while Elephant just worked on the stems of the trees in front of him.
Elephant was chained for years and years since he was very young. At the end of each day Juul used to take the loose chain from her paw in his hand and click his tongue so Elephant would bend down on her knees and Juul could be lifted up on her trunk and Elephant could put him on his neck and shoulders, Juul’s legs right behind her flapping ears. Each day Juul held the chain in his hand and walked Elephant home directing her where to go. Just like today. Elephant knew this road inside out.
“Good job Elphy!” Juul rewarded her with a sweet tone in his voice and Elphy’s ears immediately started to flap. Juul held the chain in his hand behind her ears. The camera followed the journey home which took about half an hour. Juul and his family lived in a very small village where about 90 people lived. They all seemed to believe this was a normal ritual, Juul sitting on this huge elephant, to ‘park’ her next to their hut. The family was already waiting for her with big water cans and threw it all over her. Elphy threw her head into her neck and gave an enormous trumpeting that almost blew the camera away. Juul’s family was feeding him with all kind of leaves, vegetables, fruits and more water to let him drink. It was pretty obvious Elephant felt Loved and Comfortable. Despite the fact Elephant worked for Juul, he respected him too and these two, the little India man and his Elephant were a team.
Friends even for Elephant did protect Juul once as a bear attempted to attack him and his family. Elephant had become family. This elephant could easily kill Juul and his family, he could decide not to work, because each animal has it’s own willpower. But Elephant BELIEVED he was chained. So he stayed. It was his Belief.
Beliefs and the way we Like or Dislike. Use them or Let Go. Beliefs that are bought, taken into our system by our acceptance. Just as Elephant did.
It reminds me in a way of the 63 year “old” woman I saw years ago in my office. She was shy, did not or hardly ever make any eye contact and spoke so softly that it was hard to hear what she was saying.
She told me about her abusive father and her ditto older brother. Both were extremely dominant. She was abused by both her father and her brother from the age of 5 till she was 23. Her father died and the brother got married and moved away, she and her other two brothers were left alone in the house of their parents. No one knew about what happened between but her and her father and older brother. She kept it as a secret for many many years. Her father told her not to look in his eyes when he abused her, her brother said she had to whisper or shut up. Now both the father and the brother were gone, the woman still could not have any eye contact and did not speak out loud. She still felt ‘chained’…..This might look weird but these examples are not the only ones. When a person is not aware of the fact he or she has a VOICE in this and can DECIDE this stops right here and now, they will feel chained lifelong…
Another example is about the man who was raised by his dominant mother, his dad died when he was only 2 years. His mother told him it was his fault her husband died for his father got into an accident as he was coming from work and decided to pick up his son at grandma’s place. He never arrived. The mother hated her son for taking away the only person she really loved.
Apart from this huge burden the mother parked on his shoulders by blaming him for his father’s death, she also blamed him for not being as perfect as his father. The young man started to suffer from an immense lack of self esteem. Even after his mother died he kept looking at himself in the way his mother always did. He was not good enough. He should have died and his father should have lived. He took the life of his father and he blamed himself for the death of mother as well for when she would not have been so deeply sad being a widow, she still would have lived. This is an indoctrinated process. A dog learns a trick by ringing a bell and even when you remove the bell which originally is the Stimulus, he will still do his trick. It has become part of it’s system.
We all have these indoctrinations, some of them we notice, others we are not aware of. However, we may know people who do notice it. When this is the case decide what you want with that. You could decide to look at your Self in a different way and do some Inner research on that. Or you can decide to ignore it and let it pass. For you feel satisfied the way you are. Or you are afraid to look at the Inside You. Or and this is the most Interesting number 3: You might even tell people: Listen you just Accept me for this is the way I am and that will never change…But what if you WOULD DARE to take a real good look at your Self and dis-cover the Belief structures you have always had do not lead to the real YOU? Can you give your Self another Chance to see what is your REAL BELIEF? Or do you sit still and live the same Life without any Change? As long as you feel 100% Comfortable with it, it’s great!
Do YOU have hidden indoctrinations? Do you like them once you become aware of them?
Do you ignore them?
Do you accept this is the way you believe you are….?
Or will you decide to Change it once you become Aware of it? When you realize you DO have hidden indoctrinations that you become aware of, will you decide to change them so you can become the real Inner YOU?
Or do you want to leave it and accept this is the you that you know best. Last question here:
Why would you leave it and accept it, is this out of Fear or because you feel really at ease with it the way it is?
I have had my share of Indoctrinations and I have looked at them all for as far as I can. And you know what? I like myself a LOT better since I threw away a bunch of them. I even feel Freed in a way, yes , most I definitely do.
Nowadays I can say Yes! I feel GREAT being ME, the REAL ME…. How about you?